Happy Monday, friends! Let’s have a chat! Valentine’s Day is coming up and so often I see single friends who dread this holiday. It reminds them that they’re single and, sometimes, it makes them feel bad about themselves. I’m one of those who has always seen Valentine’s Day as a money-making holiday. What started out as a day to commemorate a martyred saint has now become all about romantic dinners, roses, chocolates, and all the couple-y things that make those who wish they were in a relationship feel just… blah. So, if you’re dreading the upcoming day of love, or if you just want to take any opportunity to live your best life as the super awesome single woman you are, here are 14 ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day as a single lady.
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1 // Buy yourself some flowers and chocolate.
Seriously, you don’t mean a man to buy them for you. I know women–single AND married–who buy their own flowers, and they do because they know they don’t need someone else to make that purchase for them. If they want fresh flowers, they buy themselves fresh flowers. If you want a bouquet of roses on your table, buy yourself a bouquet of roses. There is no shame in that!
2 // In fact, buy RED roses.
3 // And pick up an extra bouquet for your friend.
I’m sure you can think of someone in your life who’s going through a rough time. And maybe she’s single too, so she doesn’t have that built-in support system that marriage is supposed to bring. Buy her a bouquet of flowers to brighten up her day and let her know she’s not alone.
4 // Take your dog for a walk.
Or find a dance or yoga class… or whatever you’d like to do to just move. Don’t look at this as a “getting my body in shape for a man” or “keeping my body in spouse-finding condition” activity. Move your body for you, because the human body was made to move and we spend so much time sitting at our desks or in the car or on the couch with our dogs. So focus on yourself and take care of yourself for the sole reason being that YOU. ARE. WORTH. IT.
5 // Have a dance party.
I know, I know, we just worked out, but that doesn’t mean we can’t have a dance party. Pull out your favorite girl power songs or find a girl power playlist on Spotify and dance your heart out!
6 // Read a book.
Surprise, surprise that this is on the list, right? And don’t read a love story! Read fantasy or sci-fi or find a book with a really kick ass heroine. Two books on my TBR that could qualify are The Valiant by Lesley Livingston (female gladiators) or Rampant by Diana Peterfreund (killer unicorns). Here’s a list of hundreds of Kick Ass Female Heroines in Paranormal Fiction, as well as 22 Thrillers With Kick Ass Heroines.
7 // Watch a movie or binge-watch a TV show.
If reading isn’t your thing… why? But it doesn’t mean you can’t have a chill night at home. Find a TV show to binge-watch or a movie to watch–but stay away from rom-com’s! Unless they’re the only kind of movie you typically watch. However if you start to feel bad about your single state, STOP! Explore a new genre.
8 // Cuddle with your dog while you read.
Or your cat… do cats cuddle? 😉 Even if you don’t read a book, at some point you’ll probably sit down someplace where your furry BFF can join you. They love you unconditionally every day of the year, so spend some time with them.
9 // Participate in a hobby.
Draw, paint, sculpt. write… do whatever creative hobby you enjoy.
10 // Throw on a face mask while you do it.
Take time for you. Pamper yourself and do the things you love most.
11 // Go out with your girlfriends.
Who says you can’t go out just because you’re not in a relationship? Put together a group of your single girl–and even guy–friends and go out for dinner. And if you have friends whose spouses are unavailable on Valentine’s Day–deployed, work, school… so many things can pull them away these days–invite them, too!
12 // Wear your brightest, boldest lipstick when you do.
Cause you don’t have to kiss anyone and worry about it rubbing off afterward.
13 // Learn something new.
Take a class at your local community center or on Skillshare. Don’t do it because you feel you need to better yourself for a potential mate, do it because you want to learn something new just for YOU.
14 // Go to bed early.
And get some rest! If you’re like me, you regularly don’t get enough sleep and those extra hours can make you feel like a queen! Bonus points if you have your royal pup (or kitty) by your side.
What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Let me know in the comments!
I’d love to curl up on the couch with my pup and a book, but I’m taking a financial planning course on Wednesdays for a few weeks. I’m not doing this to better myself for my future husband if/when I decide to get married, but because I want to make sure I’m doing everything in my powerful to have a future of financial security because I’m worth it.