VoxCon 2018 took place in New York City and was designed to help people become communicators who can't be ignored. If you'd like to share your voice and be heard, here are five lessons I took away from VoxCon this year. // dreams-etc.com

Share Your Voice + Be Heard // 5 Lessons from VoxCon

In February I went to New York to attend VoxCon, a conference about becoming a communicator who can’t be ignored. It was an amazing experience! I walked away with a notebook filled with takeaways and a huge booklist. My mind was swimming as I processed all the information that I took in. There was one session in particular that was actually kind of healing for me on a personal level–and I don’t think I’m the only one who felt that way, because by the end there were a lot of tears in that room. It helped me solidify my vision and why for this blog and I left inspired and filled with purpose. And as a bonus, I finally convinced the friend who told me about the conference to sign up for Instagram. 😂 I’ve been working on that one for a few years and in a restaurant in Midtown, she finally created her account!

Back to the conference, I finally narrowed down my notes to five lessons that I think can apply to a wide variety of creatives and I’m excited to finally share them with you today! Let’s just dive right in.

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VoxCon 2018 took place in New York City and was designed to help people become communicators who can't be ignored. If you'd like to share your voice and be heard, here are five lessons I took away from VoxCon this year. // dreams-etc.com

1 // Use your voice. It matters.

Over the weekend I finished The Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo, about a teen named Xiomara who has so much she wants to say, but she doesn’t think people want to hear it, so instead she pours it all into a notebook. How many of us can relate to how she feels? We’re bursting with things to say, but we’re afraid to say them. Even when we already have a platform–like a blog, or YouTube channel, or countless social media accounts–they sometimes only run skin deep.

You were given a voice and that voice matters. Your story matters.

That fictional tale you want to tell matters. The poems that simmer inside you matter. The song that wants to break free matters.

Not only does it matter, but Donald Miller (who shared this thought) even said he believes we have a responsibility to use our voice. We were given our voice for a reason, so let’s use it and use it for good. The world is full of negativity and negative opinions. Let’s share a positive voice.

2 // Do the work. Make it a habit. 

This probably sounds like a no-brainer, and it is, but I think we can always use the reminder. It’s so easy to get caught up in the bustle of life. We have jobs we need to go to, families we need to take care, friends we need to see. But in the midst of it all we also have a creative passion. If we want this creative passion of ours to be a thing, we need to make time for it. We need to give it priority. My friend Marisa is putting up a video every day in April and in one she discussed five habits that writers need to break. One of those habits was letting other things get in the way of our work–our work on our creative passion. This is something my brother-in-law and I have talked about a lot, too. The things I do in life support my writing; my writing is the priority.

Donald Miller also said that we need to do the work so much it becomes a habit. It becomes part of our day–like brushing our teeth and drinking our coffee–and if that part of our day doesn’t happen, we feel a little bit off. (He also said we need to be sure we don’t beat ourselves up when it doesn’t happen. When we write or paint it’s going to take much longer than some of those other “everyday” habits that we have, so there will be days it doesn’t happen.)

I think one part of making sure we prioritize our work enough to make it a habit, is to really internalize and believe #1. Once we know that our voice matters–and not only does it matter, but we have a responsibility to use–it’s easier to make the work a priority.

VoxCon 2018 took place in New York City and was designed to help people become communicators who can't be ignored. If you'd like to share your voice and be heard, here are five lessons I took away from VoxCon this year. // dreams-etc.com

3 // Be yourself! 

Once we’re doing the work, we need to remember to ourselves. Inspiration is everywhere and it can be so easy to admire someone and want to be like them. There are so many writers I look up to. There are artists whose work I love. But I’m not them. My work shouldn’t be like theirs. My work should be my own. It should reflect my voice, not my voice coming off as someone else’s. Mary Karr said she found the voice that sold books when she stopped trying to be T.S. Eliot and embraced where she came from. She stopped trying to pass. So as we move forward and do the work, let’s remember to let our inspiration be just that–inspiration. Something that shows us a different perspective and gives us fuel, but not something we need to be. Let’s embrace our own experience and our own background so that we can actually share our own voice.

4 // Stories need to tell the truth.

This is a big topic for me, and it’s something that I’ll probably talk about soon in terms of banning books and what we can do instead. The world isn’t always filled with beautiful rain clouds and rainbows. (Or, for all you crazy people who prefer sunny days to rainy ones: sunshine and rainbows.) The world is a broken place filled with darkness. And yet, there is light to be found. For every sunny day, there is a rainy one to follow. ☔💙 Stories are a way for us to explore that. They allow us to seek the good in the midst of the bad and they give us hope that we will be okay. Sally Lloyd-Jones is a picture book writer and she often writes about faith. Once she was asked to talk about the resurrection of Jesus, without talking about the crucifixion. She shared with us, “You need to see the darkness to show the light. You can protect children from the truth, or you can prepare them.” That is so true, not only for children, but people of any age. We can protect and shield, or we can prepare ourselves. Stories are a way to do that.

VoxCon 2018 took place in New York City and was designed to help people become communicators who can't be ignored. If you'd like to share your voice and be heard, here are five lessons I took away from VoxCon this year. // dreams-etc.com

 

5 // “The work you do matters more than the work you do.”

I’ll end with one of the thoughts that actually opened VoxCon, from the person who put it all together: Matt Popovits. I often think back to when I was younger and I was trying to decide between two careers: doctor or writer. When people would ask what I wanted to do, I’d share those two options and I was told, “Be a doctor. Make a difference. Save lives.” And that never sat well with me. I believe that stories and art have the ability to save lives. They can give someone an escape from the darkness that surrounds them, remind them to breathe in the midst of a turbulent day, provide them with a friend when they feel alone, give them hope that the bullies or the other giant they’re facing will one day be defeated, and those just touch the surface. Can you think back to a movie, song, or book that has provided comfort in your life? How many people love Harry Potter because the series gave them what they needed at the right time in their life? As Matt Popovits said about the work you do, “It fills a deep need for at least one person.” When you’re tired and wonder what the point is or if it even matters, remind yourself that it does. Your voice is important. It matters. And there is at least one person out there who desperately needs what you have to give to the world. As Matt Popovits said, “When you thrive in your work and become a communicator who can’t be ignored, the world becomes a better place.” It will become a better place for that one person; and I would guess there’s more than just one person who needs the words or music or art that only you can share.

PS – I also shared my reading list from VoxCon.

Who’s ready to join me and become a communicator who can’t be ignored? I’d love to hear more about what you’d like to communicate. Let’s chat in the comments!

20 Comments

  1. Beth Kondrick

    April 18, 2018 at 10:50 am

    This sounds like it was a really great and fulfilling conference! I love the encouragement to be yourself and that stores need to tell the truth – in other words, be authentic. I love that. And I agree with making something a habit, the more you do it it becomes less a habit and more natural. Really awesome things to keep in mind and put into practice here! Thank you for sharing your experience!

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  2. Christina Ropp

    April 18, 2018 at 10:58 am

    I love this, it sounds like such a great experience and you took away so much from it! I could not agree with you more that our stories and personal expressions do have the power to change lives! I was a huge reader when I was younger, everything from fiction to non-fiction and there was so much that resonated with me and impacted my life in amazing and positive ways! Now I hope to inspire others through my own writing and blog!

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  3. Emily Michelle Fata

    April 18, 2018 at 12:08 pm

    This is so great! I have never heard about VoxCon before.

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  4. Sarah Carley-Paul

    April 18, 2018 at 12:22 pm

    This is a great post. I’ve never heard of VoxCon, but it sounds like a tremendous experience, and you clearly learned so much from it! Thank you for sharing!

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  5. Ruthie Ridley

    April 18, 2018 at 12:24 pm

    I love that statement “Do the work, make it a habbit!” My first time hearing about Vox Con! So awesome!

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  6. McKenna Mitchell

    April 18, 2018 at 1:38 pm

    Thanks for sharing your advice and experience! It really makes VoxCon seem so interesting and I had not heard of it before!

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  7. Beth_Daily_Dog_Tag

    April 18, 2018 at 3:34 pm

    I am not familiar with VoxCon, but it sounds like you walked away from that session feeling really empowered and inspired.

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  8. shootingstarsmag

    April 18, 2018 at 8:11 pm

    Wonderful lessons! And yes, I think creatives really do change, help, and even save lives. Not just doctors or the “obvious” healers, if you will. I love the idea of making your creativity a habit. I need to do that more.

    -Lauren
    http://www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  9. Vivian K

    April 18, 2018 at 10:00 pm

    very insightful! thanks so much for sharing this!

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  10. Patricia @ Grab a Plate

    April 18, 2018 at 10:19 pm

    Sounds like an inspiring conference, for sure! Some great things to think about. I definitely don’t want to lose time for myself to be creative – I like the idea of making a habit of our work and creativity!

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  11. Michelle Morton

    April 18, 2018 at 10:25 pm

    Wow! Thank you for sharing your experience. 😀

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  12. Erin Hammett

    April 18, 2018 at 10:40 pm

    I LOVE the last point. I have struggled with this throughout my college career and it is definitely something I have been working on everyday. This post is super helpful for me, thank you so much for sharing!

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  13. Jess // Foreign Room

    April 19, 2018 at 1:22 am

    Wow, this is so inspiring! I think remembering that the work we want to do needs to be a habit. It is so easy for days/weeks to go by without working on the creative things I actually want to work on!

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  14. Erica @ Coming up Roses

    April 19, 2018 at 8:25 am

    Amen amen to all of the above…this conference was so good clearly, and you’ve got me loving it through all of your coverage girlfriend!!!

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  15. Courtney Heathcock

    April 19, 2018 at 9:11 am

    This post is so beautiful and SO SO powerful! Thank you so much for sharing this, I know I needed to hear it!

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  16. Messy Cutting Board

    April 19, 2018 at 9:22 am

    I needed this post, I truly needed this. I was talking to my daughter the other day. She was diagnosed with high functioning autism a year and a half ago and we, as a family, are continuously told not to discuss it unless it is amongst ourselves, people just don’t understand we are told. This is from professionals doctors shrinks teachers and other school officials “You need to see the darkness to show the light. You can protect children from the truth, or you can prepare them.” I told my daughter after many tears the other night she may talk about it to whoever she wants educate them about her struggles shine light on peoples ignorance in a constructive way, but understand that people still may not understand (my daughter is 6). It was such a weight taken off both our shoulders to finally come to the conclusion that it is okay for our voices to be heard. Still it is not easy and some days I struggle, like this past week, but your post pulled me out of my doubt and renewed my hope in my own voice. Thank you!

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  17. SocialiteMomma

    April 20, 2018 at 9:26 am

    Wow, this sounds like a really worth while event to attend. A lot of great take-away, great speakers, great inspiration. Glad you went and came out of it with all of this in you now!

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  18. Charlotte

    April 22, 2018 at 10:59 am

    What an incredible event, and I love breakaway sessions that leave people in tears. THAT is amazing, and it sounds to me like there were a lot of important takeaways from this. I always find that attending conferences like this gives me the umph I need in life and the kick in the pants to DO, not just SAY. Love this. I’ll have to look up this conference for next year (right in my backyard!), also kudos to you for getting a friend to sign up for instagram 🙂 XOXO

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  19. Melissa Javan

    April 23, 2018 at 1:37 am

    Wow, great gems being shared here. I love this: “I believe that stories and art have the ability to save lives.”

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  20. Stephanie

    May 25, 2018 at 10:50 am

    I needed this! This post is so inspirational and worth following. Each point is so relevant to real life.
    Stephanie @ https://smiletutor.sg/

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